Maybe I'm doing it wrong? But the cert changes every time LND restarts. Is there a different, stable cert?
IIRC even the first one fails because it's self-signed. Maybe you've only tested with a public node that has a LetsEncrypt cert?
nope, many run it with LND and that's also how it works on Umbrel and Start9. If the certificate is provided then this is used to validate the connection. The error handling might not be really good if an invalid certificate hex is provided. But I know many who use it successfully in a setup like you describe.
hmm, afaik it should not change every time (otherwise none of the tools would work that work with LND). It only generates a new one if the old one is deleted. It expires after many months, that is true and in Alby Hub there is no update option, yet. But that's a long time.