nostr:npub1smhgktylyuqqv9dlnxj0aq65s3fzesh2fku47g9z5r6qt9napgasp9hvr3 God didn't tell me to share a bank account with my wife. We're paying off a mortgage together, been together 17 years, our money is separate. It's not her business if I want to buy a tuba, not mine if she spends a lot at the gym. The model you pick apart is a paper dragon. People who have reasonable marriages don't make the bad choices you seem to think are the only options