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 On the other hand... 
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 It is so important in so many ways to raise a family. Maybe you should appreciate more that fact, as you should, i dare to say 
 It's hard, takes decades, and requires great sacrifice, but conveys no status or privileges. Don't even get a tax break. 😂 
 It has status and priviledges. 
Just think a lonely person hearing the family next door singing and laughing. There is an educating story from ancient greece exactly about this. Too long to write it now, but i think you get the meaning
 
 Unmarried women are rarely lonely. Some married women are lonely. I don't think this is a convincing argument. 
 Hmm, i don't know. I thought unmarried men are rarely lonely.  
 Bollocks, unmarried people are perpetually lonely. Even at a party surrounded by friends and fuck buddies, they’re still lonely. 
 Aha. Ok. 
So lonely by choice? 
 Not by choice, but rather by consequence of their choices. 
 Do i smell some pride on this?
Can't someone just be unlucky?
i like your sharp answers btw 
 The unlucky person is the exception. I don’t speak from pride I speak from experience by having lived in a place that values independence and wealth over family and relationships. 

Both the single woman and the single male feel perpetually lonely in middle age and vie for any form of attention or affection they can find, however fleeting, which reinforces their feelings of loneliness. They attempt to avoid that truth through hard work, entertainment filled evenings, drinking and drugs, large groups of friends. This continues undoubtedly until one finally finds the solution to that feeling, which is only a dedicated trust filled long term relationship, generally leading to some form of “marriage”

That’s not to say the feeling of loneliness can’t arise from other situations, but the idea that unmarried men/women don’t feel lonely is total bollocks, as fleeing it is a primary motivation of their daily lives. 
 Interesting. 
Environments that value wealth over interpersonal human relationships are not healthy environments i think. 
I suspect that you will thrive in a different environment. One of your choice. I wish you good luck on this, if you attempt it. I mean, you are better than this environment