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 For me, the opposite of love is not hate but indifference.... 
 It not being hate makes sense. For me, indifference is the neutral state between fear and love. 
 As in, it's a forward-back polarity for how you as an individual approach something/someone. Forward is based in a sense that what is ahead of you should be embraced, it's a positive future, a world of possibilities. Backward is based on a sense that the what's ahead is too sinister to be approached, and is ultimately out to get you. 
 In that sense I think we should try our best within reason to approach everything with love. There are going to be exceptions of course, but I just mean as a general rule.  
 I explain why I think indifference is the opposite of love. Love is to be "present", is to make the other part of you. How can we be love if we make walls around us, and instead of building bridges we just "ignore"?! How can we be love, when we are not there when the other needs us? 

To hate, I really cannot put into words cause I don't think I ever experienced...rage and anger, yes. But hate?! I cannot also make sense in my mind and soul to love someone, and then hate...it's awkward to me. You cannot hate what you love, IMHO.

I agree, we should try always to approach everything with love, even when we "think" not deserved, usually is when is most needed. But, as humans, sometimes people do need "tought" love to wake up.
 
 Fear is what keep us in a state of "freeze", between what we experienced (past wounds) and the unknown ( potencial future).  Paradoxly, if you never go after what you want, you will never know.

So it's better to try than stay in a state of wonder. Of course prudence is wise. 
 But isn't that the point though? That fear is the other side of the coin, in that it can trap us in a state where we can no longer act. That can appear as indifference to the people we care about l, and be interpreted as a cold shoulder. 
 Yes, you have a point in that...and a very good one.
So, how we get out of that point? 
Because some people, when we try to reach out, they go even further into the cave. And if we give space , they might think like you said, that we don't give a care... what a weird loop...lol 
 I don't have an easy answer for that. It's part of what I'm working on right now tbh with you. All of these posts on my profile are for me. 
 I agree with you, we must try to approach  situations always with love, even if not received. The tricky part is to be aware when we can push a little bit and when to just give space. When coming from an innocent place, is like a dance.
We must never forget the power of planting a seed.... 
 For sure, it's the best any of us can do. 🧡 
 Took me a bit to understand exactly what you meant. 💯 
 I will try to tell you a bit more, if you open. For me fear is a tool and love is a state of being.
Behind fear there is always something that needs our full attention and awareness.  Once understood, then it can be integrated in that state of love. Behind fear there is always some kind of magic. ✨️ 
 Sure, I'm always open to talk about this kind of thing.