Every time I start feeling like a victim I remember the car crash analogy.  

Imagine you are blindsided by a drunk driver. Your legs are shattered. Your pelvis is shattered. Ligaments torn from your bone. You are in immense pain.

As you’re laying there you can’t stop reflecting on your bad luck. None of this was your fault. You were obeying the rules of the road. It’s the drunk drivers fault. He is the one to blame. He deserves to be in prison.

True. 

It’s not your fault. You are a victim. 

But no matter how unfair, no one can relearn how to walk for you. You must do that yourself. Even if everyone agrees that the drunk driver was in the wrong and a court orders him to make full restitution… he still can’t do the work to heal you and bring you back into good health. 

Only you can do that. 

So yes things happen. 

Things that are not your fault. 

Especially when you are young. 

But at some point you have to stop dwelling on it and get up and learn to walk again.