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 Not regardless of gender but BECAUSE of gender.

Women are physically weak so they utilize verbal and emotional skills.

So sure, we’re not all this way but it is inherently in us much more than men. 
 Men and women are not created equal, and should not be treated as such. This "progression" towards "equality" is the 16th AMD's human capital stock fighting the 17th AMD's mob-rule cultural warfare over rights and benefits from our massive, oppressive, corrupt, one-size-fits-all socialist New Deal, and its Great Society of money-pit middlemen bureaucrats with domain over our bodies, legislating over every aspect of our lives, giving us so much to 'vote' about, in such an absurdly antisocial society, violently divided into riotous and insurrectionist tribal lobbies. We should celebrate our differences. Instead we've emasculated the labor market, and demeaned the homemaker. Who has herded women into the human capital stockyards? "The problem with socialism is that eventually you run out of other people's money" (Margaret Thatcher), and the socialists need everybody toiling away, each generation working for less-and-less, while "progressive" politicians keep raising the ceiling over our heads, on a house of cards that will inevitably come crashing down on us, or "our Children," in our Federal Reserve's debt-driven, charge-it-forward ponzi economy. How "progressive." Our sense of community has been displaced by bureaucracy, and these days everybody is some type of toxic -ist.

This is not to suggest that there were no flaws in our founding, certainly the American Experiment had its share of those. Women could not own land, had to give their earnings to their husbands, limited education opportunities and job market... all blatant and undeniable human rights violations. And they were all fixed without bureaucracy. They were all resolved by movements of The People, rallying around an idea who's time had come. Like unions fighting for better workers rights, like the 8-hour workday and 40-hour workweek, during the first industrial revolution in the early 1800s, nearly a century before we had a Department of Labor. "I have never had a vote, and I have raised hell all over this country. You don't need a vote to raise hell! You need convictions and a voice!" —Mary Harris "Mother" Jones.

"Such democracies have ever been spectacles of turbulence and contention, have ever been found incompatible with personal security or the rights of property, and have in general been as short in their lives as they have been violent in their deaths. Theoretic politicians who have patronized this species of government have erroneously supposed that by reducing mankind to a perfect equality in their political rights, they would at the same time be perfectly equalized and assimilated in their possessions, opinions, and passions." —James Madison, 1787. 
 I don't think it's due exclusively to gender. The fact of being physically weak is not an exclusive and sufficient condition for them to have greater verbal and emotional capacity. The fact that men are naturally stronger than women does not imply less verbal and emotional capacity. Maybe it's better that you think I'm retarded. As I said, we all have a tendency towards evil, just as we all have a tendency towards good. The fact that certain person, groups of people, or cultures have a greater tendency towards certain behavior is not something we can generalize into something natural. 

What I've noticed empirically in relation to manipulative and control behavior is that it's more related to a reaction to something external when the woman/man has the ability (intelligence) to do so (almost all the women I've met and interacted with don't exhibit manipulative/dissimulative behavior).

Something I notice in male/female relationships: when a woman gets involved with a weak man, for example, it's very possible for such behavior to happen.
1. At first she thinks he's a “strong” Man;
2. She realizes that he's not so “strong” and tries to make him see in a “subtle” way that he needs to act like a Man - which can be seen as manipulative.
3. If he wants to be a Man, he will understand that he can be a Man with the woman who wants him to be a Man, so that she can be a Woman. Otherwise, the weak man who doesn't want to take on the responsibilities of being a Man will resent it and blame women for the “high standard” they desire. 
- With men who are Men, women, who have the ability/intelligence to manipulate/dissimulate, understand that it's impossible to act like that and works. And if this woman's tendency (pride, wrath...) is strong, she enters the relationship with the intention of controlling, taking leverage, with a fixed script... which ends up being a disaster and the relationship soon ends.






 
 TLDR 
 Ps: practically every man thinks he's a strong man, but most of the time he's just a weak man. 

And that's where the resentment also comes from. It takes a long time for a man to mature. Aristotle said that “a man only becomes a man after 35”. 

In a society in which practically everyone is looking for easy pleasure, sex, the moment, carpe diem, it's guaranteed that men and women will get hurt, will resent each other... simply because they don't understand, they aren't mature enough, they haven't been taught a good hierarchy of values.