I refused to add a him/he anywhere... it was never sensical and to pretend it was ever "to be kind and inclusive" felt ridiculous. It's like saying everyone should walk around naked to show inclusiveness to nudists.

Fortunately I never got any direct pressure to do so, but seeing collegues do it in slack and emails did seem to put a weird uncomfortable pressure, like peer pressure, but the fact that it feels like a chore always overrode that pressure. Go lazy gene! 😅