Oddbean new post about | logout
 Clients must support the same NIPs. For encrypted DMs/Chats/Groups in 0xChat: NIP 04, 17, 29, 44, 100. https://github.com/0xchat-app 
 +NIP 101 
 What about DM inbox and outbox relays?  
 There's not much of free relays for DMs . Not all clients support specific DM relay setting. Anyway I believe most of us using free DM relays like auth.nostr1.com. 0xChat have it's own relay.0xchat.com (you can add it to your client easily). From my 0xChat app: "If not set, [DMs] will be sent to the general relay by default".