if I observed and adapted now I would have tried to answer you something smart that would tell you're wrong,  but I'm just here feeling how my body reacts to what I'm feeling, observing, but mostly feeling. it's the precise allowing myself to feel all that comes that really changes what I'm feeling. and to open myself to this kind of transformation is what makes me able to be with my kids (and other kids and adults) and support them while they live all kinds of emotions everyday. 

feeling whatever comes is the basis of authenticity.