for the first step my friends told me to make a lightnibg address for zaps
i choose @Alby  and it was easy to setup 

 nostr:note1pr2vks4qgpr7zsd4684j9xhhe77fwq99et5esymc9yjcre2e8x8sflkm2p 
now i have a lightning address with @Alby wallet that people and plebs can zap me