I hear ya. I do better with flowy dresses or ones that are tight right underneath the breast/ hight stomach area and with a flowing skirt. if the material is cheap and you can see all the rolls, then it doesn't look right, also it is hard to wear spaghetti strap when you are larger chest, the spaghetti strings dont look right with a bra strap, also if you CAN find a strapless bra that doesn't look like you are wearing fifty tube tops over each other, then i don't know....all my dresses are either really loose or the same shape. Fitting on top, with the tight spot under the chest, and loose on the bottom.