Had a convo with a lesbian who genuinely believes her wife was fired for being gay, but she only seems concerned with the firing & not with the dangers of working for people who she believes hated her...

What would a person focus on if discrimination was actually the serious or dangerous issue that they make it out to be?

What might a person focus on if the goal was to avoid personal responsibility for anything that happens?

I think the use of confirmation bias to protect one's own ego is a fairly prevalent phenomenon.

The two options I have presented aren't really the only possibilities, but I have never personally seen any meaningful discriminatory behavior toward homosexuals & I HAVE personally seen more than one homosexual person assume that some political position communicated was proof of mine or some other person's hatred of them, even though there was none, & the point made had absolutely nothing to do with hating gays.

I happen to disagree with the patterns of thought & lifestyle choices of a whole lot of people, straight & otherwise, but I think people who see this disagreement as some sort of hatred are generally trying to avoid their own internal problems by imagining external ones.

I believe people are social beings that have a deep need for love & affection, so as long as people look for & find it with other consenting adults, I am happy for them. 

 I appreciate your take, and your consideration for ideas that you don't necessarily agree with. 

One only needs to point to the gov choice to police marriage as a point of taxation. The govt has decided that who cant and who can be recognized, I think that where the initial victimhood started. To carry the victim status is sad, I can not imagine having to work somewhere I am not welcomed. 

Thanks Jeff 

 i like how you are thinking about this. I was fired once from a company that had mostly married guys with kids. The manager vaguely mentioned this to me. It's probably "discrimination" under some sort of law, but I like your framing better. 

He can see that  I didn't fit in and didn't enjoy working there, and it's not "because" of anything, it was just not a good fit!

getting fired however never feels good so, it's just hard to manage. I thought I was cool and could fit in with an office full of married straight men with kids! 

 If every antagonistic action that someone takes against you is discrimination you never learn a thing. Was this Lesbian insufferable to work with? Was she terrible at her job? Perhaps the leadership just sucked at the company. She'll never pull a valuable lesson from this experience because her empoyers are simply "homophobes." You can't take corrective action with that mentality. The victim mentality robs people of agency.