Yes, life is that way. It throws us curve balls and we must learn to swim the waves, as best as we can. Soon to be 2y ago, I become also the caregiver of my father. 
Not going into it here, but looking back, sometimes I wonder how did I managed to do it all, while still working and not having a mental breakdown  😂😂😂
What matters is that he's now much better and stable and we keep pushing forward ! 

About lightning, I just found out in January or February this year. Honestly, I got an Alby account and it was quite easy. I did it st first try and honestly, can recall now the steps... I just did it and is done....lol 

 Caregiver burnout is REAL. 

Dude, lightning took a real dump the time you were learning about it so that must have been a nightmare. When puzzles helped me out, there were like 10 options, now there’s like 2 lol 

 True, luckily I still intact. Crazy I always was a bit...😁😁😁😁

It was easy, soon as I got an Alby account. Just had to link the addresses. The hardest part was to link my account to Alby to be able to send zaps ( which turned out to be the easiest part lol).A friend helped me!  It's press hold lightning icon, and then the Alby icon, next, connect wallet.... I a pro now! 😅 😂😂😂. Joking 🙌