Oddbean

Creating is extremely hard. Criticizing is extremely easy. What worked best for me was learning to disconnect the work from my personality. It hurts when you identify too much with what you create. But if you can see it from a distance, you might even thank the person criticizing—it helps you make something better next time. I also remind myself: imagine if your best work was already behind you? The beauty of creating is knowing the best is always yet to come. Detach from ego, embrace feedback, and let every creation push you closer to that future masterpiece. nostr:note1y7pahcvdn4u2k2kh5yeyd49x0t6jc25pxe4dqxp9wuvewwahed7qukpa23

If it is actually criticism (as opposed to blatant, unjustified, unsubstantial attacks) I see/take it mostly as a negotiation of sorts usually after searching for the understanding, e.g. different priorities, fix of flaw, lack of possibilities, etc. Then you can simply evaluate whether the criticism makes sense. I do think in many cases it makes sense for someone to start with questions to understand the ideas first, but that often doesn't happen. (Or provide reasoning and/or context to the criticism, to make it useful.) I found it also isn't always immediately obvious which aspects is emphasized with criticism, especially if (too) concise. Of course, if they attack the person it's not really criticism anyways.