Yeah i have always had a vpn on when using amethyst so i guess thats good. I do see people i follow that are NOSTR OGs i would consider and they always said they wont reply to DMs for privacy and security reasons i believe. Does this Tor integration help that as well?  

 The mentioned problem is related to the "old" NIP-04 specs, with which DMs leak metadata. The new NIP-17 version is safe.
Tor has no role in this.