@b92b6163 @77ba84fb Oh gosh I feel both of these things so much. At MetaFilter we have a specific Community Guideline about "ironic" forms of communication, particularly ironic racism or sexism (as well as others but these are the biggies) because people may be making jokes that *might* be okay in a familiar context but are not just not okay in an unfamiliar context but actively raise the level of racism/sexism in the room which is not something we expect folks to put up with.