Imagine being a good person, helping people, being generous, looking for mutually beneficial solutions, treat no-one like they're an enemy but instead try to figure out how to resolve things. Do that for 35+ years. Then get backstabbed by *everyone* over lies, false accusations, deception. Getting no chance to explain, attempts of explanations you make either are twisted into something malicious or dismissed. In the mean time, you're being attacked, harassed on a daily basis. And people do everything to steal all your work and effort away from you.
At some point, you aren't going to be "all-positive" anymore, because you'll find out that the vast majority of people don't really have morals or decency, and aren't really capable of thinking, or hearing your side of the story. They just want an excuse as "permission" to be complete assholes.
I don't imagine hypothetical situations to be sick.
Choosing to be good people disregards how other people behave toward us.
I think you'll change you're mind if they make your life hell. It is no longer as straight-forward.
they're not hypothetical. people are extremely nasty for a myriad of reasons. most prominently if you have something good going for you -- either they hate you for it, or they want to steal it, grift on it, etc. hell I've seen people lose their shit if someone had the opportunity to grift and had morals, MAJORITY of people are of this moral compass societally now
perhaps when people are mean to you you must be ascribing it to something about yourself instead of their responsibility to treat you better -- oh wait isn't it strange that you're here bitching that people should treat you better? maybe you should follow your own advice and shut up, take it, and not complain about such nonsense. this is the philosophy you've chosen
I don't think it's a good person trait to trivialize other people's suffering, experiences, especially after positioning whining as gifting people wisdom
You must be a very sad person, I feel sorry for you.
being positive is a lie
discernment is paramount. if someone treats you shitty you don't treat them well for it. that would be self destructive
in game-theory tit for tat is the best strategy
if you convince everyone to be bygones be bygones then psychopaths rule the world. might explain an awful lot about modern era. so to be good, you have to learn discernment and exercise it appropriately
just because you don't like some random person on the Internet or your nosey neighbour doesn't mean you don't have good in your heart either. I would say dealing with people who stress you out internally is not positive at all. it's not about faking it. it's about making decisions that feel good to you, on the inside, spiritually-speaking. don't make regrets, say what you mean, and let things lay where they will, with your heart at peace
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