This is the crux of the issue - Doing away with trust in light of verifiability comes at a cost, currently - I consider all my sats precious enough to pay that cost to, in turn, better safeguard my sats. Not all will agree, many just might!
I have run fully self custodial lightning before with a node at home, my own domain for lightning address, etc. Let me put it this way, I risk lose FAR fewer sats in custody on a custodial wallet than you risk in fees and channel open/closures. Experimenting with self-custody lightning is absolutely recommended. But you will lose a lot of sats and you will cause other users to lose a lot of sats by recommending they use ZeusPay for receiving zaps on nostr.