Oddbean

No, one of the most aggravating lies in the modern world. People neglect good opportunities to build a relationship because of the belief that they “aren’t the one.” But of course, people use it as an excuse to not work on relationships

Soo you don't believe that two people can be so similar that they're like a reflection of themselves in a mirror. I'm not talking about romantic relationships or marriages; I'm talking about soulmates.

Four said it pretty well. What I think is, if you meet someone with a 75% compatibility, it could be as good as it gets, as statistically it could take you several lifetimes to find a >90%. In this lifetime, that guy could be in Mongolia and 30y older or younger than you, or could have even reincarnated as a woman. Work with the 75% guy. But, I know that if we are destined to be with someone, we alway come back close enough to meet and have a relationship. Just, it is never meant to be a heavenly one. Generally, in order to find yourself back here, you've got thing to work out, so there will be stuff to iron out, and someone you have a perfect time with might actually be a time waster and you might have to come back yet another time. Don't run away from the difficulties, it makes it worse in the long run.