Seems pretty disingenuous to say that the state doesn't define your marriage then. I am specifically getting married in Colorado because you don't apply or request a marriage license, you notify them after the fact. Also you can self solemnize your marriage, even though we have someone marrying us, they're not ordained because, I'm not requesting permission from anyone to marry, state or organized religion.  

 The state did define it, that doesn't mean they do define it for me. That's for them. The state doesn't define shit for me. Free men don't ask.  

 You litterally asked when you got a marriage license.  

 How are you not getting this? I didn't ask anyone to get married but God. Getting a marriage license from the state does not equate to asking permission from the state.  

 How does it not? The state doesn't HAVE to give you a marriage license.  

 Because acquiring a license is not acquiring permission by your own admission. You just said that...