Dammit nostr. I'm running my own node, have been posting through Amethyst and Primal, but you still won't let me zap. But you're still better than X.
Why no zaps?
I guess I'm not smart enough to figure it out.
Maybe try using Zeus wallet and connecting it to your lightning node. You can add your lightning URL or lightning address to your Nostr profile to receive zaps. Once Zeus is set up, when you send a zap it should open in Zeus to finish the payment. If you are using tor you might have to try without depending on how your lightning node is set up.