Oddbean

I think it's the bizzaro version of the strategy where men marry the woman that they're emotionally/intellectually compatible with, but cheat on her with the "hot" girl that evokes sexual desire. They're doing the inverse where they marry the woman for sex, but desire to cheat on her with the intelligent and interesting woman.

FWIW, that's the only thing some men have to offer. I've jokingly said the men who complain the most about women using men for their money and want women out of careers also want women to choose them over "bad boys" because they have "money".

FWIW, these men to be anti-feminist because feminism leads to female independence and avoidance of them for "alphas" and non-white men. So if you take away feminism, the implication is that they'll remain chaste virgins who will be forced to date them* and magically find them attractive with zero ability to compare them with previous lovers solving whatever awkward inadequacy issues that they have. There's a reason why the more extreme ones like Islam for it's stronger anti-feminist viewpoints while also permitting divorce and polygamy. *They assume "he has a middle class job* would somehow make them attractive if in peak 1950s fantasy land. Meanwhile, they'd probably still be in envy of the women that the men with more money/charisma could attract.