I asked my son (7) today how it makes him feel when he loses in a game with his friends. He said it makes him feel happy and sad. I asked him what about about losing makes him sad, and he said, “Because I want to win.” I asked him what makes him feel happy when he loses, and he said, “Because I get to see my friends win.” I’m not sure exactly how we taught him that mindset, but I was so proud of his answer.
Good man, good men. 🙏🏼
Thanks 💜 The topic came up because he overheard my wife and I talking about some friends of ours who were advocating for “participation trophies” in a club where my son attends activities/events. He’s nosey, lol, and asked what we were talking about so I responded with that question, and he floored my with that answer.
he should keep that mind. Bankei calls it the Unborn mind, because it exists before us and can never die, it's beyond all concepts. people lose it because of the world but it's always there nonetheless no matter what rubbish covers it up.
not caught in good or bad, the natural state of ordinary Mind
Sometimes those little shits do stuff like that and make us proud to be parents. Well done!
Sometimes, we parents forget how much our children register in their memory the way we speak, behave or react. As they grow up, in their little world, we are their majority. Well done for both of you 💜🫂
Beginner’s Mind. Doesn’t have to be taught. We all know right from wrong. AND, it does grow in strength from encouragement. THAT is the role of the parent: example, teacher, friend.
That's definitely an indication that you are a good parent. Good job! Parenting is hard, but in moments like this, it is so incredibly satisfying.
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