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 I am polyamorous because I believe I can love multiple people. Dating is a process to find those people. I am committed to both my partners (of 19 and 8 years). I still go on dates occasionally as I find others intriguing. But I’m also up front about my time, and that I might not be able to share as much time with someone new as when I was single and poly.

But other people have other interpretations of those words which makes communication until you know where someone else is going from so much more important than labels. I don’t assume that someone who is poly, is available to date, nor that they would wish to date any aspect of me (my existing relationships, life choices, appearance, etc.)