>"bullying" Jade to put up the decorations
does it not occur to him that Jade might be wanting to try and do things that makes Jim happy considering he may not have much time left? 

 Is the concept of genuine love and affection actually a foreign concept? 

 True love is fellating transvestites while your common law wife contemplates suicide. 

 I think these people do not understand the idea of someone actually loving someone else.