if you think words are force then i have no words
you just have to say "idgaf" and do it anyway, with a bit more discretion, and probably they are not gonna do anything
that's how you end up with all these drugs everywhere, and many studies have shown that the monopoly on drugs exercised by the state using coercion actually increases overall drug use where a lot less people would otherwise use drugs
but i think it's also that when you live in a society where coercion is used, you seek escape from the mental prison that coercion entails
it's not violence if it's just words, but it can be as oppressive even still