Ah, you're looking for a decentralized solution then. I would recommend getting a virtual private server ($20 a month?) And installing start9 on it. Then you can be sovereign (in as much as you trust the hosting service). Check if njal.la offer servers. They won't be cheap but def. Are the best for safety and privacy.
Yep, you turned the naming right here. That sounds like a feasible way forward. Had an eye on start9's services for a while now. And njal.la seems to be a really fun company when I read their website. Thanks, great recommendations 🙏