I remember those days. I worked with one of the first domestic abuse shelters in Michigan and everyone was sworn to silence about it's location. There were angry John Bircher (Men's rights advocates) who wanted to burn it own and called it a shelter for traitorous run away wives. (Traitor is their favorite smear). We never had FBI involved, but the local police would show up allegedly looking for minor "run aways" all the time with manufacutred evidence and do everything in their power to intimidate and harass us. I learned that there is nothing that men hate and fear more than whome who try to empower other women to live without them. 

 I lived next to a women's shelter and would see them escorting women and children in and out under cover of darkness.  People really underestimate the danger.  Fully 60% of mass shootings in America are rooted in DV.  The societal costs are massive but we don't seem to count them.