Out with a whimper...my friend who I met in blogworld back in the early aughts. We stayed in regular touch and saw each other through the late teens despite her living in California. We got more distant around 2018 as I was constantly managing my ex's increasing cognitive problems and trying to get through my apprenticeship.
She's always been a well meaning sweet leftist type. I've always been more of a free thinker (asshole) and became more staunchly feminist as I got older.
I started seeing on insta that her middle daughter was beginning to transition. I didn't know exactly what that meant at the time and wasn't going to ask her. Then the (clothed) celebratory mastectomy picture got posted. By this time I had pretty much noped out of Instagram and would just peek at it occasionally.
It is so weird to meet someone as a baby, watch them grow up, and then this. The young woman may be happy as is forever, who knows. But it was obvious to me when she was in her teens that she was on the spectrum and seemed like she was/going to be a lesbian.
I don't think my friend is one of those "I'm a cool rainbow mom" types. She's on the spectrum too and has bought in to the idea that this is absolutely the correct thing and how you address being different.
I got a text from her a couple of months ago which I didn't open and another last night. I finally blocked her. I have nothing to say and the damage is done to her daughter. I can't pretend to be happy for them if we talked again. I would choke on the words. 😑
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