Oddbean new post about login | logout I agree with you that the reason young men aren't approaching might be the current climate of dogged emasculation, but I think that climate is mostly fake and exists almost exclusively as a projection of the media. Men are clearly afraid to approach, and I think the climate of emasculation is largely cope for neurotic men to avoid making a decision. Otoh, increasing social isolation plays a large role here. People staring at their phones in public etc.
I think that often men will say "no I don't wanna get metoo'd" as an excuse to not approach the cute girl because those men are nervous about rejection.
I personally just don't want to disappoint cute girls (I will (I have (in every case where I created expectations))) but I do think a lot of the counter-metoo commentary psyched guys out rather excessively
Its definitely the metoo or whatever thats exacerbating things I think, rejection has been a thing forever and most guys could deal because it used to be "the worst thing she can say is no". The game has shifted and it feel like to a lot of guys that if you dont engage within the bounds of predetermined engagement zones, the consequences have the potential to be more dire.
But that feeling doesn't have any basis in reality. Irl if you ask a woman for her number she'll say "I have a boyfriend" and that's the end of it, that's rejection. Your face doesn't get plastered all over the news cus the barista didn't want to give you her phone number.
I approached a girl and within a minute she told me she thinks I'm gonna rape her. In a public plaza, with dozens of people staring at us. In some small town, in bumfuck nowhere. It's simply the case you can't believe that vast majority of women believe that shit and are even more neurotic than ''those neurotic guys.''
Thats insane
They definitely ARE more neurotic than the guys but I imagine your experience is an extreme outlier
you're all spergs on an anime appreciation website, none of you know anything about "approaching" women.
I'm literally married
yes, so you aren't actually approaching women and trying to get dates with women. 🙃
Also true!
I agree, and would take it a step further as I dont think phones are the key issue here. Public places where people are moving through have had people distracted by one thing or another before the advent of phones, reading, listening to music, or just trying to get where they are tying to go, stuff like that. If theres actually something going on, people still put away their phones and pay attention to the thing or activity (though they may take a picture which I dont really see an issue with). The larger problem as I see it is that there arent any places to do approaching, as outside of the bars in the example tweet, which still seem to be as viable as ever, places to do hobbies or activities in person where socialization are either nonexistent or severely skewed towards one sex or the other.
@4578eac2 @BunnygirlAbductor @ea1be75f cellphones are a huge problem but not because of the distraction but because it gives a chance to ignore your surroundings by connecting to people far away from you