oh yeah that is an issue. Basically, the nostr way of of thinking until now was that relays are an open notepad file that anyone can write to and it's up to clients to do all the work. Well that was retarded lol. Nobody in this space thinks like this 

 I wish I had more time to dig into the mechanics. I do like the idea of possibly being able to recreate an image board or a forum or something using relays, but it seems like they are mostly used to make a twitter clone. 

 all that has been done on the ActivityPub side, aka mastodon 

 I like thenoster mentality better, though. Of course, that's without digging into it.