Oddbean

Are single mothers bound to be single mothers forever? Wishing this question asked on Reddit before but when a single mother asks if guys make single moms, the majority of the responses are that they are not interested in single mothers unless it's a hit it and quit it situation. That it's a huge turnoff and I quote "I'm not gunna raise another man's kids" Everyone has their preferences of course and there's nothing wrong with that especially if you're single and have no kids. But it just seems like there's a lot of hate towards them I guess. Our single mothers destined to be single forever and never have a relationship again? #AskNostr #Parents #Mothers https://image.nostr.build/c934ace433e12a9a21c3b903daa3633877ca1e72372a5779ae7a7b48fb9c72b3.jpg

Specially a kidnapped one that’s curing the kidnapper with terminal cancer or something similar terminal along with everything in their lives. 🤔 Fathom having. How to unknow? https://i.nostrimg.com/d8b8bd14c4689af7331dcfdfaa6db7c6e62550ece63de6c59a771abc7b5bd36e/file.jpeg

What they don’t understand when kidnapping and assimilating is that after you and yours. Thy will be done, and you’re a big of golden showers in dead motherfucking human scums graves. It’s like your kink, and kidnapping soon to be cured from this earth human scum might find it difficult to hold tight enough not to be outed in time for what they are, and no rumor or myth can beat that tumor when turning terminal, by man and by law. 🎚️ https://i.nostrimg.com/4197bc0f25cfa3e945bc1b79e8c718620704072285860527a1dda0de8b7a1b87/file.jpeg

difficult for deviant human scum to understand sound logical reasoning. maybe it’s time for deviance to be eradicated https://i.nostrimg.com/e86cb698fe691ac2d841ab694939b6fd2566fe389d552212bae48c464bf835fa/file.jpeg

And see, when kidnapped children grow up, they become an even bigger liability. Can never trust them PHOTOS: Police identify teen suspect in deadly Pearland flea market shooting https://www.click2houston.com/news/local/2023/11/13/photos-police-identify-teen-suspect-in-deadly-pearland-flea-market-shooting/

It depends. It's a lot more complex if a situation at that point. I'm not opposed, but, it would depend on why she's single, if her children are going to accept me as an authority figure, and if we have compatible ideals on raising and disciplining the children, on top of the dynamics of the personal relationship.

Reasons to date a single mother: If You Want Kids Most women think they'll be great mothers. Many are not! If she already has a kid, and she spoils / ignores it, you can "nope" outta there without the Child Support Agency pursuing you all the way to the grave. Alternatively, if she IS a good mum, you can feel confident knowing kids you might have with her will be treated & raised right. Drama, Grief and Bulls--t Known fact, women need a steady supply of drama, grief and BS. If she works full-time, she's usually well supplied at work. Without it, the drama, grief and bulls--t are coming out of your relationship. "I'm bored", spending, cheating, tantrums. You know. If she has a kid, that's like an additional fulltime job to keep her occupied.

From what I see, they are madly popular with some girls if employed, and somewhat so even if not (!). The girls will have to tell us the reasons, but I'd guess its the whole "try before you buy" parenting I mentioned.

I'll have to agree with this. It's a fucked up double standard. But waaaaaay back in the day, I only dated single dads (the ones who had their shit together) Because they have a kid. You'll know real quick wether he has it together or not. Ie stable. But also I kind of want to add, that Society or whatever you want to call it I don't even know. Pushes this damsel and distress kind of scenario on to women. So when a woman is a single mother is kind of like welcomed or accepted for her to be like a damsel and distress if that makes sense? Like she needs someone to save her? You get where I'm coming from? Whereas if they would just instill in women like you know be successful and shit not saying some women who are single mothers aren't. But women who are career focused and are single mothers they're not praise for that. It's just like haha you have to do that anyways so you're not really given any credit. Where as a guy is patted on the back like oh yeah he's got a kid and he's got a shit together he's a good dad what a good role model They get praise for it women don't. I don't know tell me I'm not the only one that notices that

My wife, who's a career woman and a mother, really sets her teeth when she hears about poor useless single mothers on welfare, when she doesn't get any special praise. The double standard is noticed! Shes's also not a fan of one of my buddies, who's a single dad with shared custody and who seems to have a different Tinder/Bumble girl every time I speak to him! :-D

Well I’ve been hanging out with, (not married, never will be) with my partner, a formerly single mother who had and still has her shit together for a long, long time. The kids are raised and I still love the person she is. I never had children biologically my own, wanted a family either my own or adopted, and found satisfaction in raising a family with her. It can and does happen.

I don't have children, but a woman already having a child is not a disqualifying thing for me at all. The bar is higher though and I would have to make sure it's absolutely worth it, since I'm signing up to a lot more up front than I would in a relationship where kids weren't a factor. I also get why some men are averse to it, there are plenty of women who spend their time chasing after deadbeat bad boys getting pregnant and dumped, then expecting to find some kind have-it-together dude to give them a nice life. I wouldn't be interested in them either since it speaks to undesirable character traits and drama, but it's a gross generalization and obviously not all single mothers are like this.

FWIW, some of those men would love to go back, but the women dont want them for varying reasons. :-( With that said, as the son of somebody that was an unmarried single mom until she met my dad, it’s possible, but you have to do some filtering. My parents were married until my dad’s passing, and theh were seen as the strongest marriage by others.