i've heard of wezterm, but never tried it.. ..what about it made alacritty the better/favorable of the two?  

 More established with more dotfiles for me to crib from, mostly. But wezterm is gaining. 

 i don't like any of them because they don't have custom hyperlinks like tilix and the intelij terminal, and the interface of tilix is awful, i keep on losing my configuration, and it takes me at least an hour to figure it out again, because i don't use regex regularly, most of the time my parsing is just "split by comma" 

 Kitty can do customs. Not sure how it stacks up tho

https://sw.kovidgoyal.net/kitty/open_actions/