How do I know which relay is fucking shit up for me? 

 Following 

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 I've done that too lol... i wish their was a relay tester for normies to see who is making notes lag. My notes aren't appearing for over 20 minutes so by the time they do, they are old news on a feed that goes by newest to oldest. lol especially if everyone is following 2000 people.  

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 I keep my list pretty small, and mostly stick to the cornychat 

 all of them 

 7-9 relays should be good.
I have 9 relays.
3 of them are locals
One is Citrine on android
One on my start9 server
One on my mac for when I use nostr on it 

 you have 3 local ones, how? 

 If you have an android you can download citrine here

https://github.com/greenart7c3/Citrine

Then it runs on your device and you add it to your relay list.

The other one is one start9 server
I connect to it with tor on android and my mac

The other one is on my mac same process as citrine. I will check the name in a few minutes 

 I tried citrine but I didn't know what I was doing..I literally need a step by step video tutorial  

 Let me know if you want to give it another try 

 Ok maybe this weekend at some point. 

 I love weirdness. But this love affair is taking its toll on me. so hot and cold. lol 

 Started working again for me  

 good. good.