Why don’t they have a newsletter 

Why are they still on Twitter

Why don’t they move out of Texas/Florida?

Why don’t they burn everything down

Why are they still in that job

All judgement. No solutions. 

How do you want people who can barely sit up in bed and only get support and financial help from one community to survive? 

How? 

Y’all always have a bunch of judge shit to say and 

ABSOLUTELY 
NO
FIXES 

that work UNLESS those people have you same privilege. 
Why don’t they 

 @763550b7

One of the things that I learned in counselor training was that why is a really nasty word. It cannot be said in a non-judgmental manner. There is always, and I mean always, a judgmentalness to it that you cannot remove. It was worth an F grade to use why on a client. 

 @f42fdd5b 

I'm curious what they suggested to use instead, where you're trying to understand. 

 @7ee1b20b

I'm not sure that I remember quite what they suggested. It's been 50 years ago now. But I have come up with a number of ways of looking for information and understanding. One might be: how did you come to this conclusion? Another might be: help me understand how we got to this point.

Cassandra, I don't think any of them are quite as succinct as using just the word why.  But they all require you to use a bit of creativity and be a little more wordy.