I would like to make the switch to grapheneOS from my iPhone but it is very daunting
Actually you'll be happy to hear, that it's use is nearly identical to a regular Android. I know you said you use an iPhone, but Android is not that difficult, it's just F-Droid and Google Play for the store. And most of the same apps. You would benefit from this educational video from our team: https://video.simplifiedprivacy.com/degoogledphonebasics/