I see what you’re saying and agree with it mostly. but, nostr will die if everyone is always saying “if you don’t like it, leave” which is already what i see people say everyday to users.
I'm not trying to frame it in a "if you don't like it leave". Its more about making you find your home easier. Then when you find your home, not worry about it being invaded my bad actors
I don’t think the answer is “leave”, but will eventually be “join a different app/relay/filtering mechanism/community that is to your liking”