There's value to be had from any situation even if the situation itself was undesirable. You can't find all the value in a situation if you are judging it & yourself though. You have to have at least have a neutral (preferably positive) mindset to find most of the value in a situation. From there, you either get back on the horse or find yourself a new horse to ride. There are no coincidences, why did the universe show me this?