Annulments are brutal. That would upset me so much more than a divorce. Like, OMG, this whole time...

I know someone whose marriage was annulled and he needed psychological treatment for years. Said it was as if a paternity test had come back without a match, after you'd been raising the kid for years. 

 Just realized that bringing this up with her might be a bad idea. 

 Yeah that's insane. I can't even imagine.