I really enjoyed this vid man. 

About 18 months ago, I very deliberately asked myself how I could express my most authentic self. 

It caused me to become aware of when I was expressing something else. One of those expressions was pleasing others & making them feel comfortable in my presence.

When you become conscious of an unconscious behaviour, you get to observe it. It doesn't always mean that you can stop the program from running immediately, but you become more aware of it. It's no longer running unmonitored. You eventually start to get a choice of whether to run the program or experience the discomfort that you assume will occur when you don't run it.

Becoming comfortable with being uncomfortable is what makes you feel like a psychopath 😆