"If you only ever use something to spend then it isnt money."

Greshams Law says the exact opposite. Even if you are correct people will use a "worse" money (you claim this is Monero) and hold a better money (No one will want to use Bitcoin). We kind of see this already. Bitcoin is used less in proportion to it's users and mcap (8x-10x less than Monero)

And if you make yourself an easy target for the state you aint changing shit either. The state can force miners to apply targeted censorship on Bitcoin. They can't with Monero.