Oddbean new post about login | logout Oh, I didn't feel financially dependent for a long time either. We owned everything together. What happened next is very personal. But believe me, I couldn't imagine it myself. But I certainly made clear mistakes
Everyone makes mistakes, if you're married long enough.
I don't think "owning together" is enough. I think the homemaker needs to own things outright. Solely in their own name, so that they can take it and walk out the door. Like have their own retirement account, gold vault, Bitcoin wallet, etc. It's a psychological thing, mostly, but psyche is important.