This is exactly right. I just posted this to Odell. The only solution is to decentralise the network provision itself. If we become the isp, the DNS, the server and the user... Then maybe we stand a chance.
This will be the response Nostr shills will say http://blossom.poster.place/10272d7d77b894b7e8b254eaad9d19103d38acfa10c6104f30b3d05d862a9d72.jpeg
But I really would like a technical answer! Tor and Nostr have known addresses. It's not that hard!