Oddbean

No, too long-term. It doesn't address the immediate emotional strain of the veritable disappearance of wider male attention, the tangible loss in social status and social activities, eventual geographic relocation away from family and friends, and the economic risk of being tied to only one man's income.

don't like his arguments. for me marriage is sum of positive and negaitve. if sum is positive marriage stays if not don't see why not divorce. so that means do something every day to ensure your partner is happy. if there was a conflict do something positive next day. Math!)

I've been married for too long to think I can spend every day catering to the moods and whims of my partner. A marriage you can discharge, the minute the situation makes you unhappy, is literally worthless. Marriage exists to keep you in the situation when you are unhappy. Marriage is positive, on its own. It has value, on its own. Realizing that is part of adulting.

I don't believe that someone can give you warranty in anything. I'm not religious and I think something has value for people if other people or you put work in it. if your husband/wife gave you vow some years ago and now he/she wants divorce, who can enforce this vow? government? a person can divorce simply because it's physically possible and vows are just a mental construct. it somehow reminds me of "intrinsic" value of gold.

Let your yes be yes and your no be no. Marriage vows are public, to increase the social cost of breaking them and the social reward of keeping them. That is why wedding anniversaries are celebrated and "round" anniversaries are celebrated even bigger. Everyone knows that it's an accomplishment. An increasingly rare accomplishment, in fact.