the topic is so complex & getting messier by the day, week, month…esp w the media wars many are trying to escape from.

but yeah…

in a utopia, (maybe) it would be absurd to mention certain characteristics, traits, whatever of oneself when having conversations about many things. 

but in this world, it’s definitely relevant a lot of the time.  no one demands it, but it gives a lot of context.

also in this world, as that one guy did some replies earlier  where my original reply started…it’s more absurd and questionable to have a knee-jerk reaction of stubborn self-earmuffing…and declaring it…than it is to mention different aspects of oneself to establish greater context, understanding, or even relatable-ness.

these things like straight, white, male are not arbitrary traits…

they’re very real concepts that heavily frame the way people think.

and they’re very real concepts that intentionally or subconsciously influence, heavily, the way people harass, target, & harm people.

and that’s kinda the force of it…

if in this world people get uncomfortable about merely talking about these things, that really does just show that these things need to be talked about more…until, it gets to what i think you’re saying, which is something like~~~ “i wanna be able to talk with most people like i talk with my close friends or family whom i love deeply—without having any need to establish common ground of all being humans whom are loved.”

i don’t think it contributes to racism or sexism to acknowledge what’s actually going on in the world.  i think the more we can talk easily about whatever means there’s no issue…and we wouldn’t be talking about it…but we are definitely talking about it…

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