What i notice about people when i walk into a room:
1) What someone is wearing — their sense of style/fashion
2) Face — i do *NOT* like facial hair on men
3) Hair — *GOOD* hair is important in life!
And then i *FEEL* a person’s vibe & energy, intuitively, a thing that many people can’t.
i can *FEEL* if their vibe/energy is calm, good, positive, desperate & needy, starving for love & attention, insecure, etc.
Some people radiate a very big vibe & energy and sense of fun, one of those intangible things that must be FELT *IN* PERSON and does not translate online.
In REAL life *PHYSICAL* meeting, conversing and interactions is MUCH BETTER: the Full HUMAN, Tangible experience!
So you shallowly judge a book by its cover first. Then if they dont happen to match up to your lofty expectations. You hypercritically asses them with judgmental factors less vain, intangeble, and harder to verify honestly.
It is time for you to take a good hard look in the mirror. You are doing everything ass backwards. For someone trying to portray themselves to the world in the way you do. If that is who you want to be, then actually become that person.
Try doing this all in reverse. Switch your value of importance from top to bottom. See how it changes your outlook on people in the world for at least 2 weeks. I hope it changes you and the quality of people you interact with for the best.
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