i'm not sure if you are even reading my notes but i literally just built and am running my realy relay on wss://nostr.realy.lol this evening and you already have access to read and write to it if your client auths to confirm you are one of my follows

it took a bit over a minute including download time to build it on a 1gb memory VPS

you should be able to get any Go based relay to build from source in even as small as 512Mb of memory 

 I am reading your notes, but they don’t apply to my use case I don’t think.

My users have randomly generated nsec that they don’t even see. No profile info. No standard event kinds (no 0, 1, 2, 7, etc., just custom events)

So there can be no “follows” or web of trust etc. For my use-case Nostr is just the messaging protocol between anonymous contributors who don’t interact directly and have no in-app means of doing so. 

 well, i'll leave off on commenting because i think you are doing something that will prove to be a waste of time 

 No problem, it might be! Here’s a brief description of what my site is about: nostr:note1wntnh2napy79s4yj7dc4uxh4hqxrzc0297yqcnqtnq3ry0rjjkpqn0ams3