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iefan 🕊️ | 9 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +2 
 I often notice this tendency within myself sometimes. It might result from self-projection & also maybe our habit of categorizing people, causing us to overanalyze their statements. 

Nevertheless, I think this approach isn't conducive to effective communication. I strive to treat each person as an individual. Each person is different and complex.
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franny | 9 months ago (raw) | root | parent | reply | flag +2 
 Yeah I also notice that with myself very often, too! And it’s really not so easy because we’re still humans, driven by our emotions and values. 

And about categorizing each other, in the first place we need to categorize or our brain would be overwhelmed. But what if we shrink the amount of categories? That’s what I was thinking. You could have a category for people that really did you wrong, and one that’s called „just an individual“ and maybe over time, it’s not such a big deal anymore! 
Just a thought… 😊