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 No it isn't. People should only get married and have children because they want to, not because they've been pressured to. In fact, we should be pressuring people to be sure they're ready for the responsibilities of both before doing either. People should fully understand what they are getting into before taking on an existing human and/or creating a new one. Far too many people just do these things because they've been conditioned to.

That's a recipe for disaster that frequently ends in divorce or people like me supporting someone else's kids through the welfare state. 
 Nah. Get married. Have kids. Figure it out. It’s not rocket science. You aren’t going to mars. You don’t need a lifetime of study before jumping in. 
 I didn't say you needed a lifetime of study. Having kids and getting married out of pressure before figuring out if it is what you actually want is retarded. 
 How long you taking to “figure out what you actually want”?

Like what age should you know by? 
 Whatever age you think about it and decide that's what you want. I'm not so arrogant that I think I know what everyone else should do and by what age, nor do I pressure them one way or the other. I just have the opinion that one should understand why they want to do something and not just do things because they've been pressured to. Especially when that thing is another human being depending on you for survival or being legally bound to another person and the choices they make.

Some people should absolutely not have children, can't care for them anyway, and certainly should not be pressured into doing so. It's just an overly broad and careless take that has massive consequences. What's true for you isn't necessarily true for everyone. Having a 'hop in, think about it later' attitude gets some people in a mess that other people have to clean up. 
 Your thought process makes no sense to me. I don’t understand your worldview. 
 He's defending the choices of forever young narcissist. No one is ready to have children. You grow with your kids. They will make you figure it out real quick.

The only legit reason not having kids. Is being a kid yourself, or not being able to find anyone that wants to have kids with you imo. 
 
 Everyone without kids is in fact a kid 
 something a kid would say 😂 
 I know you are but what am i 
 That’s stupid. People don’t have kids for other reasons than that and I can give you my examples anytime 🤷‍♂️