Oddbean new post about login | logout I cut contact with her, but she reached out twice. After I explained my feelings, she said she was open to more than friendship, so we're getting to know each other again. hmmm... I have to chillax lol nostr:nevent1qqstwx6tpd99san9jv73kdndf2l4qvv84782lcqezdkw87yjh6tdq8gpz4mhxue69uhhyetvv9ujumn0wd68ytnzvuhsygqvg6thn5xxcjveg52004vcjpqx0ncd8537m5r7femdlht5kgwckqpsgqqqqqqs5gkhay
What made her change her mind? Did you have a chance to share with each other what you are both wanting to create individually with someone?
1. I think I misunderstood the situation. She's very christian and she she would prefer a long friendship and then a brief relationship before marriage. The way she explained this to me made me understand she only wanted friendship. She shows genuine interest in me and there is trust between us. 2. Yes, we have talked about this many times already, and we mostly agree.
this won't work nostr:nevent1qqs0fts3eehlvvqmy72x5hah9xpv4c4f3ap6d0pwgjkd70d3m5vmuqcpz4mhxue69uhhyetvv9ujuerpd46hxtnfduhsygqvg6thn5xxcjveg52004vcjpqx0ncd8537m5r7femdlht5kgwckqpsgqqqqqqsa6kxx7
We are not compatible. I'm straightforward, she needs a social filter. I can't be direct with her, she would get mad. This only leads to fights, confusion, me not understanding what I did wrong and having to apologize when I don't feel it makes sense. She doesn't have the same intensity as I do. She's more reserved, I'm all in. I've had to recalibrate to what she would accept, killing a part of myself in the process. She prefers acts of service and I prefer words of affirmation and physical contact as ways to show love. This is the main problem, I think. Her being very reserved in all ways makes it very difficult (for me). I'm sure she has a list like this with her reasons, at least in her mind. nostr:nevent1qqsvu4vjhny9lgsedxmkhmrn246sgavg54nduqtm4tqda36aq35wskgpzamhxue69uhhyetvv9ujuurjd9kkzmpwdejhgtczyqxyd9me6rrvfxv5298h6kvfqsr8euxn6gld6plyuaklm46ty8vtqqcyqqqqqqgwws8gq